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Women are scared to walk alone at night because of y'all pic. Skip navigation! Story from Wellness. The phrase "men are trash" has become somewhat ubiquitous in pop culture lately. If you haven't ever said it yourself, you've probably heard it from someone else, or read it in a post from one of your favorite meme accounts. In fact, its become common enough for Facebook to recognize as "hate speech," though that's a whole other story.
But what exactly does it mean, beyond the fairly obvious idea that men suck? Allow Twitter user Zion Destiny to break it down for you. On Tuesday, Destiny took to Twitter in a now-viral threadlisting out a whopping 37 reasons why women say that men are trash. Though she exempts "the good guys" from her thread for those "not all men" respondersshe lays it all out, and it is a treat to read.
So what do we really mean when we say "men are trash? For starters, she says, men tend to call women "hoes" for everything they do, but slut-shame women for being sexually active while still wanting to be with someone who's sexually experienced.
And it's not just about the hypocrisy that men can have when it comes to women's sexuality — she also called out the ramifications of toxic masculinity and male entitlement. We could go on and on, but suffice to say, Destiny dropped some serious truths about what women really mean when we say "men are trash. Destiny tells Refinery29 that she wanted to post the thread because she was inspired by the "misogyny, sexism, homophobia, transphobia, gender roles, double standards" she witnesses, and by "being a young woman myself and experiencing all the things women do.
Though she says that the response to her thread has been incredibly positive with, of course, a few exceptions since it is the internetshe hopes that if anyone does feel offended by what she wrote, that they examine why they feel that way.
You can read the entire thread on Destiny's Twitter page.The woman you sleep with gazes into your eyes and tells you she loves you.
And you believe her. You can tell by the way she looks at you, the way she holds you, the way she seems to always know what you want before you do. There are a few of things in life you just know, and how much you love this naked woman is one of them.
But there are a lot of things you don't know. Pieces woven into the very fiber of her being. Mysteries only hinted at in a passing sly smile, an inscrutable laugh. These are the secrets of lovers past, hidden fantasies, and unshared longings. But like any man who seeks, you'd better be prepared for what you're about to find. She knows all of your vitals—from the size of your bank account to the size of your other, um, holdings. When her friend smirks at you knowingly, you are not imagining it.
She knows. So just know that she knows, and deal with it. Chat with her about your relationship at your own risk.
Your secrets are not safe with her. This is not always a bad thing e. But, in general, remember that she is your girlfriend's confidante first, and yours never. Want to know what else excites her?
When you go away, even for a day, she sleeps in your favorite old T-shirt. When a woman wants to pretend an encounter never occurred, she simply scraps the man from her official score sheet.Just like when you're watching a slasher flick, there's a point in a relationship when you can sense that something bad is about to go down.
Only it's a lot harder to predict a guy's behavior than it is a screen serial killer's — especially when it comes to breakups. Which is why Cosmo spoke to a bunch of Jasons, Freddies, and other regular guys for the real deal on what's running through their heads when they sever ties. We also got the straight-up facts on how men react when you do the dumping — and the heinous, pathetic ways they try to move on I'll rag on her favorite TV show or her friends.
Or I'll pull away from sex and say my workload is stacking up. Eventually, she'll lower the boom. That way I don't have to feel bad about hurting her feelings. Who wants to look into someone's about-to-fall-apart face and tell them that they're no good for you anymore? E-mail is much better.
You still feel like a jerk, but it passes quickly. The truth was, I wasn't all that into her. I wanted to fool around with this other girl so badly, but she wouldn't touch me until I called my girlfriend to break up.
Before you break up, you're agonizing because you're not sure if it's the right decision. That stage can be harder than the actual breaking-up part. So I'm a happy guy. Basically, I feel like a new person after the breakup because I'm free of this ball-and-chain. But when the two-month emotional delay kicks in, the newness of being single wears off.
I usually feel worse then. Never go to a strip club after you've been dumped. It depresses you and makes you miss your sweet girl. You have to reaffirm that you've still got it. Was it my breath? My belly? My miniature paycheck? Getting dumped turns even a confident man into George Costanza. One night, I made a girl I'd been dating her favorite dinner and served it with wine and candlelight, but she dissed me after we had sex.In the criminal justice system, abuse, violence, and trauma against women are considered especially heinous.
In Johannesburg there is a dedicated movement combating these vicious crimes. The movement is represented by two separate, yet equally important groups: the victims, who live through it; and the perpetrators; who disarm the victims.
These are their stories. Regardless of his oppositional argument, I refused to agree with him just for a picture, after all, what type of journalist would I be if I agreed with everything my sources said. Far too often, movements are undermined, misinterpreted and viciously generalized.Daev Zambia - Never Been Easy (Official Music Video)
Tweet after tweet, I constantly saw the voice that was coming out of the MenAreTrash movement. The notion of the very fact that men display ignorance on a topic that they should want to improve themselves on shows and proves MenAreTrash. The MenAreTrash movement is a display of emotions, a stance from the women of the world to say that enough is enough.
We are tired of our fellow females being abused, raped, catcalled, sexually assaulted, traumatized and financially burdened by men. According to Africa CheckSouth Africa has one of the highest rates of femicide globally and this is 5 times more than the average femicide rate in the world. Women are being victimized daily on a global scale and out of it, a movement with a beautiful voice was born.
We cannot allow the narrative to be dictated by the same men who abuse us. We cannot allow the narrative of our movement to be hijacked by the same men who invade us. This photo essay is a reflection of men and a reminder that ignorance is not bliss and that the more you know, the more you can engage. It is a chance of reflection, questioning whether you want to participate and stand against these atrocities, or you want to cry out loud about how you are not part of the problem.
The choice is yours, the pictures are here and the change can only come from within you.
Fred Moss. Suhail Bismilla. School Student. Boys should protect girls rather than bully them. Griller at Mochachos. I see how women are treated in the workplace and it is not right. Delivery Driver. Some men treat women badly and some men do not. Search for:. Post to Cancel.I am a woman of Generation Y and I've just turned 29 years old.
I've been looking for Mr. Right since I was 26 and there's one little problem I keep running into: There are no Mr. Rights lining up to marry me! I know I'm not alone here, because I've seen plenty of articles on the Internet about women just like me having the same problem. I really don't know what's wrong with me, and why men aren't more interested in me.
I'll admit I've made some mistakes. Like most women of my generation, I grew up being taught that I could do anything I wanted, and that there'd never be consequences for my actions. I was always taught that I deserved the world, and that my entire life would fall into perfect harmony any time I wanted it to, including marriage, promptly by the age of You see, being taught these notions as a little girl, I decided to do what most of my girlfriends did: once I got out of high school, I spent the next ten years "finding myself" by spending all of my free time chain-smoking cigarettes and getting drunk in bars and clubs.
There were many men I got involved with during this period of my life. None of them were the wholeseome kind of men you could build a life with, but I didn't care. I wanted action. I wanted excitement and drama. I knew those men never cared about me and only wanted sex, but I gave it to them anyway. Some of them hit me, and a few smashed in my car windows, but whatever.
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I've been with over fifty men, not counting the ones I just fooled around with. Is this hurting my chance to find true love? There were a few really great men who came into and out of my life during this period, usually from outside the bar scene. They were men who really cared about me, who were concerned for my well being, and who did the little special things to let me know they cared, but I ignored them.
I did, I'll admit it. Every man who came into my life who displayed these positive traits - the kind of traits that could have led to stability and happiness - I rejected. I found them boring. Honestly, I was having too much fun with my lifestyle to ever take notice of the men who actually treated me like a human being. I was addicted to promiscuous sex with bad boys who never loved me.
Most of my girlfriends were the same way. Why settle for a good man before you have to, right?! Now I'm 29 years old. I only drink on the weekends and I've curbed my smoking somewhat, but it's taken a real toll on my body. My looks are fading, and my biological clock is ticking. I am a single mother of one child born out of wedlock to an abusive, no-good father who never loved me or even had a relationship with me. Not that I wanted a relationship - he was just some guy I met in a bar and I liked how he talked to me like I was dirt.
What can I say, it made me hot.Do you know all men? If you are offended, dustbin collection is on a Tuesday in my neighborhood, make sure you come round. All of these situations have become common occurrences in our time.
But should we feed into the hype? Absolutely not. It is often in this pain that we reach out to our female counterparts, who through their past hurts are quick to reaffirm the notion that all men are trash.
Recently I have found myself constantly in the presence of kindhearted, God fearing men. Are they trash? And it is through this exposure that I have learnt how to filter out trashy men.
I actually had a conversation with myself and came up with following. I know right? Cause this girl just had herself an Aha! I like how your solution to the problem was acknowledging that a good woman deserves more. Like Like. I love how personal your work is. And rounding it off with your wit makes for an easy read. Setting boundaries is extremely important! More important is sticking to boundaries. If you have any suggestions send them through to unfilteredchelsea gmail.
Men must take responsibility for their actions. We got engaged Feb 14 and I caught him with her the next day. Did I deserve that? Were there red flags?Donald Trump — aka Mr.
Gen X seemed like the generation who didn't apologize for offending people, but now even they have to make amends. Millennials are a large consumer base, and we live for apologies. Apologies are currency now, and they've become a cornerstone of how we interact with entertainers and each other. But all apologies — and offenses — clearly aren't equal. Some felt like the claim was weak and wrote it off as a bad date whose classification as a consent issue was setting the MeToo movement back, while others labeled the "Master of None" creator and star a proto-Harvey Weinstein who should be banished from everything including his stand-up tours and Netflix — and there were many, many interpretations that fell somewhere in between.
And I get the sensitivity: men — sexist, racist, and sexist and racist — have behaved monstrously for a long time. Too long, in fact, and this is a global, centuries-old problem, not just a new millennial Hollywood obsession. Oppressors deserve to be crushed for what they have done, but the current cultural rules also make it feel at times like every man has to answer for the sins of Matt Lauer and Louis C.
Which is understandable on one hand, because men do benefit, even passively, from the toxic masculinity that allows guys like Lauer to thrive. But it can also be difficult to navigate as a black man, because we deal with our own share of oppression as well.
I was wrong. She labeled me the monster. The article, which is well written and reasoned, isn't as inflammatory as the title suggests.
The piece just says that black men, who have been and remain oppressed, do also have a certain kind of privilege and can be problematic, especially on issues dealing with sexism and homophobia. And I totally agree. We all responded with question marks and laughs.
We are the ones who get the biggest seat at the table and the biggest piece of chicken at the table despite making the smallest contribution to the meal. I saved it, shared it and went on with my day. They need to be stopped. Things didn't go well from there.
"Straight black men are trash": Do I have to agree?
We went back and forth a bit, both frustrated, until she called me "problematic" and stormed off. But neither of us really apologized. But a search on Twitter shows "straight black men are trash" is not a unique sentiment. Was this an instance of ironic misandry that I interpreted as personal, or her sincere belief?
I admit I wanted to be treated as an individual in a world where women aren't always given that chance. It feels like we live in a world where women have been so mistreated by men that the only way to counter those wrongs is for women to lash back out at all men in all situations.
That feels justifiable on many occasions, but seems as if it could also lead to a neverending cycle where nobody wins. I'll never blindly go along with what people say about straight black men if doesn't sound right to me; nor do I want to call myself trash just because many people have had bad experiences with men who look like me.
It can be easier to go along with what my friends say than to push back and start a fight, so I often do. But then I feel like a hypocrite.